I really wish you would fucking care. But your actions these past two weeks have shown me otherwise. You partying and drinking like there is no tomorrow—it speaks highly of your character. Of what you have become. That is not a conscious activist, this is a person with some serious issues with a title to brag. Don’t you realize that alcohol has infiltrated and fucked with our communities? Don’t you realize alcohol has killed so many people? Now, I am not against drinking—but this is called binge drinking. Weed, like alcohol, was placed in hotpockets of activism to curtail the challenge that students posses. Now you are part of the plan. It is now a problem.
Don’t you realize who you are hurting? You are hurting the people you love the most. Don’t you realize that if you say you love me, you would be more careful with your actions as to not hurt me? partying, drinking, and ignoring me do not help your cause. It only aggravates those that are trying to help. You are not making yourself look any cooler or cuter if all you are doing is fucking with your life! You are being selfish and therefore disrespectful. Yet, you expect me to respect you?
Don’t you realize that when you fuck someone everyone knows, people will talk. Guess what? People are talking! Saying you did this with this guy, you did that with that guy. How do you think that makes me feel? That a week after you break up with me, you are already messing with other guys. Wait, but it didn’t take a whole week. Because according to speculation, rumors, and your texts—it happened the night you broke up with me. Don’t you have any respect or dignity? And you say you hate sluts. You are becoming one. Now, you know I’m not against people having sex with whomever they want whenever they want—but I know you verbally expressed you would never do that. You are doing that right now. Sucking his dick, licking his ass, eating him out, kissing his lips. You have become the slut you have always hated.
Further, the inconsiderate sexual desires and physical actions with other guys expands way before you breaking up with me.I am not sure why you would even lie to your own friends about this, perhaps you were just bragging and trying to make yourself look cool—but cheating is never cool. Why do I go to a conference to present my research, you know for program that paid for your rent at the apartment, and you cheat on me with some guy you meet that weekend in Santa Barbara?
While all these are just rumors--I have nothing else to believe or rely on because you have REFUSED to talk to me. By you refusing, you are admitting your own fault.
And you say you want a break to find yourself? How are you finding yourself in the midst of alcohol and sexual desires? Is that what you have become? Is that what you are fighting for? Is that why you wanted all those positions of power? To become this? How are you bettering your community? how are you bettering the lives of all those people that are depending on your leadership? Let me ask you what you asked leaders prior to you: “WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE?” Remember that line? You would ask everyone that. Partying does not save the world. Fucking does not change the system. You acting like a fool is a sign that the system is working—to keep you fucked over!
You call yourself a leader, and say you represent a community beyond oppress. You blame for not understanding your struggle because ill never be in your shoes. One you deny the fact that I was in your shoes, and while I got out of that situation by strategic luck, now you are just alienating me from you. You are asking me to check my privilege, but at the same time, you are refusing to engage in dialogue with me. you are loosing your closest allies. But I don’t do this because of you, I will continue to fight for what I believe in. But you, you are no longer that tokenized model. Why? Because the fame, the power, as gotten to your head.
How many underprivileged students do you know who party every fucking day for the past two weeks? How many underprivileged students do you know who do not have to worry about finding a job? how many underprivileged students would not want a summer of not working or anything? you give the subaltern a voice, and he is no longer a subaltern. That is what has happened to you. You no longer speak from that community, because you have demonstrated that you are no longer a part of it. Now you are speaking on behalf of that community—because you have access to resources, power, knowledge, fame, and even less personal surviving responsibilities.
I am tired of keeping my voice silenced at the expense of protecting my community. We went through this once before. Mujeres and queers had to keep the dirty laundry at home, don’t expose it because you will make us look bad. I am tired of being that good self-sacrificing joto, so Raza can grow and move forward. But Raza cannot move forward and grow if we continue to protect our leaders who continue to abide by heteropatriarchal norms. Brown men, and now the few queer brown men in power, need to be held accountable for their masochist, misogynistic behavior.
Note, this is supposed to be a revolution for and from love. But when you hurt the ones that love you the most, it becomes less about love and more about power and control. When you use the master’s tools, the ones that allow men to sleep with whomever they want, without feeling remorse or guilt, then you are downgrading the feminist intervention of love to the movement. You continue to uphold man’s traditional values, and deny the feminine aura of love a chance. We cannot and should not have men who abide by traditional repressive male values to lead. We tried it once before.
Then there are the many that say that the personal should be left at home, and should not interfear with the revolution, with the work we are trying to do at the community. While idealistic, the reality is that if we allow men who abide by these ideologies, without holding them accountable, they will remain unchallenged, and their ideologies will continue to permeate our communities. We already live in a world that locks love, but when we allow our leaders to perpetuate at the destruction of love, we cannot stay still and expect for change to happen, because nothing new will change. We can no longer allow the master’s tools of sexuality and power lead our communities. We will only see our defeat in the end.
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